The response to my blog post Learn from my mistakes has opened up so many discussions with people who read it and it got me thinking – why did I make the decision to skimp on my photography budget?
If you know me, you know this decision doesn’t make sense at all. I’m a blogger for goodness sake – I love photography! So why oh why did I decide to tighten the budget on the photography of the most important day in my life?
I think it came down to two things:
1. I was looking to spend money on the things that were instantly gratifying, rather than looking at the big picture. Eg – I was happy to spend more on the aspects of the day that would be immediately noticeable – the flowers, my dress, the food etc. Because in my mind I was thinking the wedding photographs are (for the most part) only going to be seen and enjoyed by my husband, myself and our families. So instead I focused the budget on making the day the best it could be, forgetting that the photography would help me remember that day more clearly for the rest of my life.
2. I asked the wrong question. My husband and I never searched high and low for a photographer, we knew we had a tight budget and had been told this guy was affordable, so the only question we asked was ‘how much do you charge?’ We never asked how long he could stay at the event for, what photographs, prints and albums we would get back (we got one CD of images), whether he would bring a second photographer or if we could show him examples of wedding pictures we liked.
Whether you’re the one planning a wedding or the one taking the pictures, you’ll draw your own conclusions. I know I should have approached it differently, and thought a little more about how I would feel when the day is a distant memory and the photographs are what I have to remember it.
My photographer should have acted differently too, especially if he wanted me to spend more. Just because my only question was ‘how much’, doesn’t mean that should have been his only answer.
P.S Although we don’t have the greatest record of our wedding day, we are lucky that our friends A Couple Of Night Owls took some beautiful pictures of us together (e.g. the picture above). It doesn’t make up for the wedding day regrets, but it does help ease the pain.